Love really means Forever

Let me explain: there’s a whole lot going on inside of us that we’re not even aware of. Firstly, we need to understand how we choose a life partner. Yes, you read right, WE choose not God not fate not our parents (although it has been proven that arranged marriages actually lasts longer) we do, God will expect you to honor your initial commitment so be careful when choosing in the first place.

Think about this: when a tool we use or product of any sort gets broken while under warranty we have to send it back to the manufacturer to get repaired or in some circumstances replaced. So why when we’re married do we try and fix it ourselves? Why not refer to the manufacturer to get it repaired?

This next piece may be R rated but we need to understand this: love does not equal sex. Sex is Gods idea. It’s used centrally throughout His word (John 8:32 etc.) to show and express His love and relationship with us.

We need to go to the word of God to understand what we need to do with all that we have, do and is. From the beginning God created us by forming us and blowing His life into us after He made the decision by speaking a Word, therefore we need to go back to His manual (His Word) for guidance.

Gen 2:7 Man was physically formed from dust not just created like the animals. He formed us lovingly & then stooped down to blow air into our nostrils. In Gen 2:18 it says that God saw (not feel or think) that it was not good for man to be alone, He decided to make man a helper. You see the animals had partners and some animals pair for life, Adam had God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and the animals as company but needed someone physical to meet his needs as human. Someone special who would complement and fascinate him.

Gen 2:21 God gave Adam some narcosis and he went to sleep, then God took 1 rib from Adam in order to create his helper (Eve). So why a rib? Why not a foot bone? So that Adam cannot have the idea that he could use Eve as a doormat, something to step on.

Why not a piece of Adams skull or jaw? So that Eve don’t get the idea that she could sit on Adams head. Why did God create Adam & Eve (please note, not Adam & Steve)? Because of His first task He gave us: for recreation, procreation and to fill the earth. Gen 2:25 They realized that they were naked, up to this point they were actually covered by the shekinah glory of God therefore they didn’t feel ashamed. When the Bible refers to naked there’s 2 words used in the Jewish language Arom = the Shekinah glory of God and Erom = Spiritual, relational brokenness or fear.

Genesis 1:28King James Version (KJV) 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Think about this: When a husband and wife has sex the first time and she’s a virgin (like she should be) then the hymen tears and blood is shed. This represents a covenant with God and is found throughout the Bible where God makes covenants with people blood is shed. The very first of these involved sex and human beings! “be fruitful and multiply”. This is the most sacred of all covenants as God intended us to live holy together in union forever.

God wants us to be a family so that we can be fulfilled in longing, commitment and unity. Matt 19.6, 1 Cor 6:15 and Eph 5:31-32 illustrates this.

It clearly shows the following steps:

1. Leave – this means it’s not for children to do, ties with our parents must be cut so that we can join with our partners. In other words, we need to re-prioritize our lives.
2. We need to Cleave – make a commitment, to be attached to someone else that you’ll nurture & cherish in an exclusive long term bond. The sexual act during the honeymoon seals the deal, becoming one flesh.

Today the above order is reversed and not as God intended, only a small group of people buys into this belief Matt 19: 4 – 6.

Esoteric cults believe that the best gender would be a harmonious blend of male and female. People no-longer believe that God joins man and woman together in marriage but some marriage officer. 1 Cor 6: 15 states that during intercourse man and woman is joined together forever by the law of sexual union. Most people don’t believe in this law and they are like the person who says there’s no law of gravity: he proceeds to prove his point by jumping off a building trying to show that the law of gravity has no effect on you.

When scripture says “it is written” it means it’s an undisputed law of God and factual.

So how do we choose a life partner?

By smell first, the way they smell resonates with our senses, much the same as a certain smell will conjure up memories of a certain place or food that we tasted or even a place where we’ve been before.

Then second Sight, when we like what we see we tend to get visually stimulated.

Touch – yes that slight touch of her hand, the look in her eyes when she does and the way she smells will create the memory…

Hearing her voice – that sweet sound when she says your name the first time.

Taste – hmmm kissing, licking or food/beverages we enjoy together, God uses all our senses to activate the glue of His love for us.

So how does He do it?

You’ll have to wait till next time…

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